the bed of roses , or is it?

There was a time when I wanted to marry , have kids, a career and live the life like every1 does. Sometimes i wish I stayed that way. But now I ve changed.

I dont understand the need to get married. As a girl living in a small town/city (?) the lack of freedom to move around.. the taboos and the hawk eyes luring around everywhere .. I began to feel bored and left out after a certain point. All the frens I cherished and shared the wavelength with moved out or got married..and it was no fun to be alone in this city .. and with hoardes of relatives around it was no fun either.

FOund my man or so I felt.. got married and realized that the cliched "love before and life after" holds true to a certain extend.

Of late I came across few blogs and people who decided not to have kids. I can undertsnad them , I can understand why they chose so.

I also come across girls who do not want to get married. No one asked me for an advise, but I wanna shout it out.. dont marry till the right one comes along.. and dont decide that he is the right one , coz  u are lonely,coz he is fun and its boring elsewhere, or for such odd reasons...  Marry him coz both of u want to be together. If he is fun to be with , if he cares about u like he does his frens and his parents, if he is adamant that u have to get along with his parents and u can then go ahead... life is nto so simple ...